Recently, I criticised myself for my self-criticism. I have this inclination to read about the importance of self-care and self-love, try to apply those concepts, but when I failed to self-love I inevitably go down the terrible slump of hating myself for hating myself.

There is a perspective I’m missing: deciding to be less critical of myself doesn’t mean I’ll immediately stop being critical. It should be something obvious that there are gradual progress towards improvements and on the road to progress, for every improvement I make, I’ll still exhibit behaviours of my past non-improved self. That is perfectly normal.

This is another advice for myself: don’t beat yourself up for beating yourself up. Accept yourself when you defaulted to your self-critical self and give yourself time to grow to be less self-critical.